tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3891893665236545238.post3467902721382742428..comments2023-05-21T06:26:04.527-04:00Comments on Threading the Dog: Lettuce Rising...and Me, TooJulie Shttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10978914181459849382noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3891893665236545238.post-36037286863634405772013-04-15T00:29:39.926-04:002013-04-15T00:29:39.926-04:00.....besides being a mother, amen to that! I do wo........besides being a mother, amen to that! I do wonder where is the 'me-part' at times, instead of the 'we-world'.<br />I think that is part of the reason why here-in-blogland and in the What If diaries are so important to me.Saskiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10974723368542754165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3891893665236545238.post-5685152731924365842013-04-14T20:27:52.396-04:002013-04-14T20:27:52.396-04:00Yeah, my kids still refer to me as the She Bear. A...Yeah, my kids still refer to me as the She Bear. And yes, I got all the mama'ing any biolgical mother does and even had my own unique version of labor and delivery (first adoption took 9 months from conceiving the idea till holding the baby!) Now,at age 58 and still a great mom, it seems incredible that not only do I not define myself by my infertility but I see myself as things besides a mother! Julie Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10978914181459849382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3891893665236545238.post-48004555531774365262013-04-14T13:12:31.313-04:002013-04-14T13:12:31.313-04:00....and what I also wanted to say was how incredib.......and what I also wanted to say was how incredible that you thought you were still carrying a burden that you'ld already let go of without realizing it; and how happy I am for you to feel this freedom now and realizing that!Saskiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10974723368542754165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3891893665236545238.post-41938435530325250522013-04-14T11:30:40.674-04:002013-04-14T11:30:40.674-04:00hi Julie, I have just read your article A Longing ...hi Julie, I have just read your article A Longing for Children and am deeply touched by your desription of what it was like for you not being able to conceive, carry and give birth to your own children. <br /> Up until I was about 25 I didn't see myself as mother-material and it was only after I met my now husband at the age of 28 I could see myself wanting to become a mother. By the time I was 32 and we had been together a few years, my body told me I needed to become a mother, it was almost as if I had no choice in the matter, it was a very physical, emotional urge. We were lucky: we have two boys of 'our own'; carrying them and giving birth to them was life changing for me, I am a tigress when it comes to them (our youngest gave me a self made poem a few years ago describing me as such)<br />I remember you introducing yourself in the What If diaries mentioning your daughter taking your picture and how extremely happy you were in that moment. So you too have become a mother, I think what I'm trying to say is that becoming a mother may start at a certain moment, conception, adoption, the dream of having a child, but staying the mother for your child is what matters even more, being there through the good times and the bad. Sharing your life with children, well I don't have to explain that to you, is magical and awful and normal and not so normal...it matters. Saskiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10974723368542754165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3891893665236545238.post-1322451676422376172013-04-11T20:21:12.721-04:002013-04-11T20:21:12.721-04:00oh thanks, Mo....makes up for not being able to dr...oh thanks, Mo....makes up for not being able to draw. Yes, we here in the Northeast are frantic in our need not so much for spring but for the end of Darkness, Cold, and Very Angry Things hurling down from our skies. Julie Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10978914181459849382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3891893665236545238.post-64020879721876396222013-04-11T14:49:48.525-04:002013-04-11T14:49:48.525-04:00loving all the feisty blood flowing juiciness of s...loving all the feisty blood flowing juiciness of spring from you folk in the North Countries as we start letting go with the autumn leaves here in the Land Down Under & by gosh you can write!Mo Crowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09004208849028911104noreply@blogger.com